How to Stop Fear-Based Negative Self-Talk

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Welcome to the Self-Talk Series!

Self-talk is something most of us do as thoughts run through our minds constantly. In this series, we’ll look at how our thinking process impacts us and how we can renew our minds as Scripture directs us to do.

If you want to stop fear-based negative self-talk, then these tips will help you overcome living a fear-based life controlled by your emotions.

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Are you a wife or mom who is struggling with fear and anxiety that’s controlling your thought life?

Many women are gripped with fear that holds them back from moving forward and becoming who God created them to be. The struggle is real and often hidden so others won’t see it.

You might be dealing with fear at some level and negative self-talk is silently eating away in your mind. You’re not alone. I’ll be sharing about my fear so you know it’s not just you.

Negative self-talk is a common problem that affects many women.

It can be defined as the inner voice or dialogue that we have with ourselves, often criticizing or degrading us.

This negative self-talk can stem from fear-based thoughts and beliefs, which can hold us back from achieving our goals and living a fulfilling life.

Thankfully, there are steps that you can take to rewire your mind. Let’s do this together.

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Understanding Fear-Based Negative Self Talk

First of all, it’s important to understand how fear-based self-talk works.

Fear is a natural response to danger or perceived threat, but when it becomes irrational and starts controlling our thoughts, it can be detrimental to our well-being.

Our minds are powerful, and they can create scenarios and outcomes that may not actually happen.

This is where fear-based negative self-talk comes in – it feeds off of these irrational fears and creates responses that often come out in words directed toward those we love.

This often happens to me when I’m riding as a passenger in the car with my husband. To be clear, he is driving (and to be honest . . . driving me crazy) but maybe I’m the one driving him nuts.

Either way, it isn’t an ideal situation. My intention in sharing this raw truth with you is because I want to see growth in my life.

Firstly, I want to trust God more (that’s key) and grow into the woman God has created me to be.

God never intended me to be driving my life from my emotions. He desires to be my driver, directing my decisions on Who is controlling my thoughts, words, and emotions.

Giving up the wheel:

  • I give up the wheel!
  • I give my fear to God!
  • I allow God into the Driver’s seat!
  • I TRUST God with my present situation and future!
It’s not going to happen . . .

As long as I am sitting in the driver’s seat of my life, calling the shots on what emotion (in this case fear) that I allow into my head-space!

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The Impact of Fear-Based Negative Self-Talk on Your Life

When you’re filled with fear, even if it’s a seemingly small area of your life, it has an impact on negative self-talk in your life.

Like I was saying about the fear I have when riding somewhere in a car, usually it’s in highly congested traffic . . . I first have thoughts and self-talk going on in my head and it’s negative. That means it’s not helpful to me personally or those I’m around.

I might try to keep my thoughts to myself but eventually, they come out of my mouth. Thoughts turn into actions and often they tumble out in words.

Fear-based negative self-talk can also hold you back from reaching your full potential. It can cause you to doubt yourself, question your abilities, and make excuses for not taking action.

In addition, it can affect your relationships with others as well. When we are filled with fear, we may lash out or say hurtful things to those closest to us without even realizing it.

Most of the time it’s because the other person takes what we say the wrong way. Words are often misconstrued and although you didn’t intend damage, damage is done.

When you don’t give up the wheel:

  1. Fear might look insignificant but it’s devastating!
  2. Identify your area of fear(s)!
  3. Fearful self-talk eventually comes out in words!
  4. Fear-based self-talk holds you back from your full potential!

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Recognize and Identify Fear-Based Negative Self-Talk

If you want to rewire your mind, you’ll want to learn how to renew your mind. It starts by renewing how you think.

This means that you’ll need to use strategies such as recognizing and identifying fear-based negative self-talk.

Start by paying attention to your thoughts, especially when you are feeling anxious or fearful.

Do you notice common patterns of negative self-talk? Are there specific triggers that cause these thoughts?

Once you have identified the root causes of your fear-based negative self-talk, you can start working on changing those thought patterns.

You can do that using some of the strategies found in God’s Word.

Fear-based negative self-talk can also hold you back from reaching your full potential.

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Maybe in one part of your brain, you trust God but in another compartment of your mind, you are controlled by fear gripping you.

What are you to do?

God wants you to trust Him even if your fears become reality.

Trust is when you believe Him even when all looks bleak.

Do you get stuck in the dark moments?

The answer to fear is to take your thoughts captive.

  1. First, refocus your thinking!
  2. Then your emotions will follow!
  3. Is fear gripping you?
  4. Are fearful words coming out of your mouth?

If you want to stop fear-based negative self-talk, this video will help you.

I share personal examples that go further than in this blog post.

When your emotions are under control, it is easier to control what comes out of your mouth because fear is no longer gripping you.

Fear is based on situations where life goes wrong so you might be encouraged by Growing Strong Faith in the Storms of Life

6 Tips to Stop Fear-Based Negative Self-Talk

  1. Rewire your thinking with Scripture and prayer!
  2. Believe God and follow Him scared!
  3. Accept God’s love for you!
  4. Watch what you put in front of your eyes!
  5. Listen to worship music!
  6. Add movement to your day!

What happens when you’ve transformed your negative self-talk into a positive mindset that glorifies God?

When you’ve transformed your negative self-talk into a positive mindset that glorifies God, you will experience freedom and peace in your mind.

You will no longer be controlled by fear-based thoughts and misconceptions of others, but instead, you’ll have the power to choose faith over fear.

This will not only impact your own life but also the lives of those around you as you’re relationships heal and flourish.

Has this encouraged you to stop negative self-talk? If so type STOP FEAR in the comments!


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