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3 Lessons I Learned from My Husband

The three lessons that I learned from my husband were hard lessons because God spoke to my heart. It wasn’t like he was intentionally teaching me something but more like I thought “I” was right until I saw the lesson that God had for me.

It was an ouch-moment if there is such a thing.

Sometimes marriage is so hard.

I love my husband dearly and would never know what to do without him. He is my best friend but yet, for some reason, we are opposites at times.

He doesn’t understand me and more often than I care to admit, I don’t understand him.

  • He doesn’t understand why I put on mascara.
  • Nor why it takes me so long to do my hair.
  • It completely evades me why he would belch so loud!
  • Or why he doesn’t see the need to pick up his clothes.

But the fact of the matter is that he has more good qualities than bad and that I love him to the moon and back!

Yet, for some reason, we can be total opposites.

God created men and women to be very different from each other. To complement each other.

We are wired differently and it is sometimes hard to understand how the other operates.

Giving our husband the room to be who God created him to be, goes a long way in learning to get along with each other. God created a husband and wife to compliment each other rather than rub each other the wrong way.

That is why I am sharing these vulnerable lessons that I learned from my husband. I want you to keep on keeping on in your marriage and learn to love your husband like you never imagined possible.

Here are 3 Lessons I Learned from my Husband

The day that I learned these lessons from my husband, ‘things’ weren’t going so well. It’s not that we don’t have a strong marriage. We do. In fact. We’ve been married for 40 years and have stuck it out through better and worse.

To be totally honest with you, I get too defensive when I feel challenged in some way, real or not. At least with my husband. I know him best, so I am most comfortable with him.

Can we get too comfortable with our husband and forget to honor and respect him?

I would rather you imagine your own situation and your own reaction. I am sharing about this so that you also grow to listen closer for the Lord’s voice speaking to you about you.

Husbands can be wrong. They can say things that they shouldn’t say, use wording they shouldn’t use, be hurtful in how they say it . . . But wait. So can wives!!

AND. Although my vocabulary might be a little nicer than a man’s, what the Lord was showing me that day, was that I was just as wrong.

  1. That I am more wrong than my husband, once I open my mouth to ‘discuss’ the situation. What if my husband was NOT wrong like I was thinking he was? Because I was filled with pride being so sure HE was wrong.
  2. That the Lord can help me to be quiet when I should say no more. It isn’t that a wife shouldn’t ever speak or explain to her husband how he has hurt her. There comes a point where I know for me, I have said too much and need to be quiet. Being quiet, not to manipulate or control, but because the Holy Spirit is controlling my responses.
  3. To do good for my husband when I have been hurt. Doing special things for your husband because you choose to respond in love to the situation. What if you have been deeply hurt by your husband? What if every bone in your body is crying out that you want to hurt back? That is when it is hardest to be nice let alone loving. That is when it is most important to take action and do something loving for your husband. Not only will your actions speak louder than words, but it will inevitably change your own heart. It hopefully will mend the breach in the relationship rather than splitting it further apart.

Marriage is something that we desperately want before we are married but takes more work after marriage than most people want to invest.

I want to give honor and respect to my husband. It will strengthen and enrich our marriage.

Do you struggle in your marriage?

What are the things that you have learned from your husband? I’d love to pray for you.