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Would you like a stronger relationship in your marriage?
These tips will cultivate grace in your marriage for a stronger relationship. Are you ready to learn how?
As moms, too often we put our relationship with our husbands on the back burner as we care endlessly for our kids and home responsibilities.
I don’t know if you’ve seen similar problems in your marriage, but I’ve seen it in mine.
Babies need your unending care and attention and once they are teenagers, it often feels like they still need plenty of care and attention – only it’s different.
But the thing is, our marriage is just as important (if not more) because it’s important to have a strong and healthy family unit. A lot of times, we can get stuck in a rut or take each other for granted. That’s why it’s so important to intentionally cultivate grace.
Once you are an empty nester, you want a thriving marriage and not one that has become dull and fractured.
You’ll want someone to spend the rest of your life with as raising kids only last for a season.
When I had five teenagers life was hectic and I no longer had the relationship with my husband that I so desperately wanted.
I had a choice.
Let my marriage continue down the same path or turn it around to last the rest of our lives.
Why cultivating grace is important in marriage and how it can strengthen your relationship
As someone who has been married for over four decades, I’ve learned the importance of grace in a relationship (the hard way).
Marriage is a beautiful yet challenging journey that requires patience and forgiveness daily. Yet too often we hold back on grace.
It can be easy to get caught up in the small, insignificant conflicts that arise in a marriage, but cultivating grace allows us to extend kindness and understanding to our husband.
If you find it difficult or impossible to give your husband grace in the season you’re in, you’re not alone.
I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to ask God to help you learn how to give grace. You cannot do this on your own.
Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16
Usually, there are issues on both sides. It’s important to start by forgiving your husband for what he’s done wrong and allow God to search your own heart. This will allow you to soften and extend grace towards him.
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Ways to cultivate grace in your marriage
Choose forgiveness: Forgiveness is a crucial aspect of grace in a relationship. It involves letting go of anger, resentment, and hurt feelings towards your husband. Choose to forgive him for past mistakes and be willing to work together
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matthew 6:14
By offering grace, we create a safe and loving environment where both husband and wife can feel heard and valued.
It’s not about sweeping issues under the rug, but rather approaching them with humility and a willingness to work through them together.
So, whether you’re a newlywed or have been married for decades, I encourage you to prioritize grace in your marriage. It takes effort, but the rewards are immeasurable.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Communicate with empathy – How to listen and respond to your husband with understanding and kindness
As wives, we want to be an emotional support to our husbands, and listening with empathy is a crucial step in achieving that.
It’s not always easy to respond to our husbands with understanding and kindness, but when we intentionally cultivate grace in our communication, we can create a safe space for them to open up to us.
Instead of interrupting or dismissing their feelings, it’s important to actively listen and validate what they’re saying.
Using phrases like “I can imagine how you feel” or “That sounds really tough” can go a long way in demonstrating empathy.
Remember, when we communicate with grace, we not only support our husbands, but we also strengthen the bond of our relationship.
It’s easier to share these things with you but I continually need to cultivate grace towards my husband in these ways. We must always work on our marriage.
Offer forgiveness – Letting go of past hurts and moving forward together
Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult things to offer, especially if you have been hurt deeply by someone.
But letting go of past hurts and choosing to move forward together can be incredibly powerful.
It takes courage and vulnerability to offer forgiveness, but it’s worth it to experience the freedom and peace that come with it.
Maybe you have been holding onto anger or resentment towards your husband for a long time.
Take a deep breath and consider extending grace to him.
Remember that forgiveness is not excusing his behavior or condoning what he did – it’s simply choosing not to let those actions define your future.
It’s about releasing the burden of pain and choosing to move toward healing.
So today, choose forgiveness and take the first step towards more intimacy in the future.
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14
Show appreciation – The power of small gestures and words of gratitude in building a loving marriage
Marriage is a journey full of ups and downs, but one thing that can help strengthen the bond between you and your husband is the power of expressing gratitude.
It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture or an extravagant gift, small acts of kindness and a simple “thank you” can go a long way in building a loving and lasting relationship.
Saying “I appreciate you” or leaving a sweet note for your significant other can make them feel seen and valued.
It’s the little things that often make the biggest impact, so take a moment to show your husband how much he means to you and watch your relationship grow.
Remember, when it comes to love, every kind word and small act of kindness counts.
Let all that you do be done with love. 1 Corinthians 16:14
Embrace imperfections – Understanding that no one is perfect and embracing each other’s flaws with love and grace
Are you a mom who expects perfection of yourself? Most of us are like that!
It’s no wonder we are so hard on ourselves and each other.
But the truth is, nobody’s perfect.
We all have quirks, flaws, and imperfections, and that’s okay.
It’s what makes us unique and interesting.
Yet often, we are encouraged to make excuses for sin in our lives. Sin is different from quirky imperfections.
We should accept our own and other’s imperfections but not our sins. We need to allow God to deal with sin in our lives, especially when it comes from our tongues and is directed towards our husbands.
So embrace your husband’s quirks (like maybe he loves to belch) and your quirkiness BUT deal with your tongue and any other sin (in yourself), especially sin that will destroy your marriage and cultivate grace.
This might help if your marriage is struggling!
Summing up the importance of cultivating grace in marriage for a lasting and fulfilling relationship
When it comes to marriage, cultivating grace is an essential ingredient for building a lasting and fulfilling relationship.
It’s the glue that holds couples together during the toughest times and helps them grow stronger. These verses will help you!
Grace is about being patient, understanding, and forgiving.
It’s about giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt and treating them with kindness and respect, even when they don’t deserve it.
It’s not always easy, but it’s worth the effort.
By showing grace in your marriage, you’re creating a safe space for your husband to be vulnerable and honest, and that’s where true intimacy and connection can grow.
So if you want your marriage to last, cultivate grace in your relationship every day. It’s a small gesture that can make a big difference in the long run.