What can you do if you are worried about situations in your life? You might feel caught in impossible circumstances but if you stick with me I will share solutions from my experiences in the trenches.
Since the time I was a young mom, the physical dangers my children could get themselves into worried me!
Do you become fearful that your child will fall down the stairs? I remember watching helplessly as my 14-month old daughter fell head-over-heels down a long steep flight of stairs!
As our children move into their teen years, we still might be worried that they will hurt themselves physically. They sure do more damage to themselves. This reminds me of when my 16 year-old-son dumped himself from a snowmobile so he wouldn’t race into a barbwire fence!
These are the kind of things that cause us to worry about our children!
Much worse, is when we are worried about our children’s spiritual safety. As our children move through their teens into their adult years, it might become obvious that they are not walking with God.
It is often hard to tell because we can’t see what is going on in their heart.
Both types of worry can be a stressor in our life but being worried about our children’s spiritual condition has far-reaching consequences. The child is eternally when they don’t turn to Christ.
1. You are a Precious Mom!
Solution #1 is knowing that you are precious to God!
It is easy to feel like a failure when our child hurts themselves. You might feel that if you had watched them closer they nothing would have happened. Do you remember anything like this?
When our children make the wrong life choices, you might feel like an utter failure and hurt as a mom. I know I have felt like this!
It is important to solidify your identity in Christ as a mom. You are the best mom for this child! God gave this child to YOU to mother!
And he said, “O man greatly loved, fear not, peace be with you; be strong and of good courage.” And as he spoke to me, I was strengthened and said, “Let my lord speak, for you have strengthened me.” Daniel 10:10
Often when a stressful situation happened with my child, I could literally feel the strength leaving my body!
2. Be Strong in the Lord when You’re Worried!
The second solution is found in Daniel 10 and is very comforting when you are worried.
This passage is talking about Daniel having a vision and then a messenger comes to speak to him.
The book of Daniel goes deep but we are pulling from this story something that spoke to my heart that the messenger conveyed.
The messenger kept telling Daniel to BE STRONG!
If this can speak to you today as it did me, that would be great!
First of all, HOW can you be strong?
How can you have courage?
Sometimes as a mom we look ahead to the future and it is scary! We are completely fearful and worried!
3. Stand Fast don’t Be Terrified and Flee!
When someone is terrified the tendency is to turn and flee. The third solution is to stand fast!
There were other people with Daniel at the time he had this vision. They could not see what Daniel saw but they ran off totally terrified! (Daniel 10:7)
That left Daniel completely alone! (Daniel 10:8)
I want to encourage you NOT to flee in terror from the situation that you are facing with your children.
This can even be with your children as adults because when they are adults, we cannot tell them what to do the same as when they were growing up.
You might get shaky or lose your confidence but the best solution is to stand fast. I’m not talking about being confrontational especially with grown children.
The way to ‘stand fast’ is found in the next solution.
4. Do Not RUN from Adversity but Instead, Pray!
Do NOT run when you are fearful and neglect to pray.
Back to Daniel . . . this vision terrorized Daniel as much as the people who ran off.
Daniel’s strength left him. Maybe he felt like running off like his friends. (Daniel 10:8)
Then the messenger came to him and he was terrorized and fainted! (Daniel 10:9)
This leaves me with the impressions that I am not the only one to lose strength when adversity hits.
I don’t actually physically faint but inside I feel that I’m fainting when a serious situation occurs.
The messenger had a message for Daniel. He told him how loved he was! (Daniel 10:10-11)
And he said to me, “O Daniel, man greatly loved, understand the words that I speak to you, and stand upright, for now I have been sent to you.” Daniel 10:11
Too often as women, we do not feel loved (even though most often we are) and that is why this story spoke so deeply to my heart.
If God is giving this message to Daniel, He is also speaking to me and I am sure it is meant for you!
God can use you IN the situation with your child when fear does not get in the way.
For the second time, the messenger says to Daniel, you are precious! Don’t be afraid!
Then he said to me, “Fear not, Daniel, for from the first day that you set your heart to understand and humbled yourself before your God, your words have been heard, and I have come because of your words. Daniel 10:12
Daniel is so afraid that he is shaking. I have been in stressful situations with my child when every fiber of my body is shaking. Have you?
Remember how Daniel is a man of prayer.? He is the man who opened up the windows of his house even though a law was decreed that he could not pray. (Daniel 6:12)
Daniel fervently prayed even though it was against the law!
5. Two Things to Pray when You are Worried
Daniel prayed for UNDERSTANDING and that he would be HUMBLE.
What a prayer!
He prayed for those two things instead of for temporal blessings for himself or his children. Too often we pray that our finances will improve or for something like a new car.
Instead, Daniel prayed for the intangible.
He prayed that he would have understanding and that he would be humble.
What Daniel said was something like this, “How can someone like me, your servant, talk to you, my Lord? My strength is gone and I can hardly breath!”
“O my lord, by reason of the vision pains have come upon me, and I retain no strength. 17 How can my lord’s servant talk with my lord? For now no strength remains in me, and no breath is left in me.” Daniel 10:16-17
Have you ever been in a situation like that where you are so overcome with your issues and problems with your kids that you just don’t know what way to go?
The messenger said AGAIN . . . I think this is the third time, “Oh man, greatly loved, fear not, peace be with you, be strong and of good courage . . . “
And he said, “O man greatly loved, fear not, peace be with you; be strong and of good courage.” Daniel 10:19
This is the same thing that Joshua was told, not to be afraid and to be strong. He was also told this over and over again. (Joshua 1:9)
This is what I am telling you today!
To be strong and not to be afraid in whatever you are facing with your child. Look to God and pray for understanding and humility in dealing with your child.
Daniel replies to the messenger and says, “Let the messenger speak because you have strengthened me.” (Daniel 10:19b)
6. Final Solution is to pray, “Lord, Change ME!”
I have no idea of your circumstances unless you share with me in the comments below.
I know that is rather public, there is a limit on how much you will share. At least you can ask for prayer and I will write it down.
There is something that is causing Daniel to be fearful as many situations in my life have done to me.
The message to Daniel is to turn to God in prayer and not to be afraid or fearful.
My message and thought to you is not to be fearful. Then to get on your knees and pray, asking God to give you understanding and humility in the problem you are facing
It is so important to humble your heart because often there is something in our heart that needs to change for the situation to improve.
So my prayer has been, “Lord change, ME!”
Remember, you are VERY precious to God and have the courage to allow God to work in your heart and change you!
Be strong in the Lord!
How can I pray for you today?
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