When your marriage hurts, the last thing to cross your mind is to choose gratitude. Emotionally you are at a low and your thoughts are consumed with the issues that are causing your emotional pain.
When God brought you and your husband together you were in love and somewhere along your journey, life happened and maybe you are NOT feeling in love anymore.
When I was in the first years of our marriage, I honestly thought that I was the only woman in the world who sometimes experienced marital bliss ;-).
I felt so alone!
I didn’t have an older woman who could set me straight or encourage me.
It wasn’t that my marriage was always messy, but for those times that it was, it never occurred to me to choose gratitude.
So, for those once-a-month days when your heart hurts, or those seasons that your marriage is totally on-the-rocks, I want to share why you need gratitude.
Christian marriages are struggling and too often ending in divorce. It hurts you and but is devastating to your children.
With all my heart I want to encourage and equip you to keep your marriage healthy and flourishing.
Don’t ever take your marriage for granted! Always do things to nurture your relationship with your husband!
An Unthankful Heart Hurts Your Marriage
When your marriage is strained, isn’t it hard to be thankful?!
Have you ever found it hard to go hug your husband when he gets home from work? Ever found it hard to be thankful for how hard he works and that he has a job?
I have come to believe that a failure to give thanks is at the heart of much, if not most, of the sense of gloom, despair, and despondency that is so pervasive even among believers today. ~Nancy DeMoss Wolgemoth
What if your marriage could be turned around because you choose to have a thankful heart?
Just what if?
I know that when my marriage was struggling, the last thing I felt was thankful! At that moment my heart was focused on all the wrong that had been done to me.
I was immersed in a puddle of self-pity.
How to Choose Gratitude in Your Marriage
Whoever offers praise glorifies Me; And to him who orders his conduct aright. I will show the salvation of God.” Psalm 50:23
You may be feeling so low that you can’t imagine how on earth you are going to choose gratitude!
The gloom that can settle around your heart can be so heavy.
Your situation might feel impossible at the moment.
BUT . . .
Yes! You can do this!
I like how Psalm 50:23 says we are to give a sacrifice of praise and to the blameless.
Those who sacrifice thank offerings honor me, and to the blameless I will show my salvation.” Psalm 50:23
Having a heart of gratitude isn’t always easy. Especially in a marriage.
What a challenge to be blameless when things aren’t going well and you are hurting.
There are some things that I did, that in time turned my marriage around.
You might not feel like doing these things and they will probably not change anything at first. Maybe not for a long time. Both you and your husband might be in ruts on how you respond to each other.
BE THE ONE TO CHANGE HOW YOU RESPOND.
Choose Gratitude When it Hurts
Yes! Especially when you are hurting!
- Take unthankful thoughts captive! (2 Corinthians 10:5)
- Be a Warrior-Woman and pray Psalm 50:23 over your husband giving a thank-offering for every possible thing about him!
- Speak grateful thoughts into your mind!
- Choose to be grateful for your home!
- Think and say 3 things you are thankful for each morning!
Do you think that a messy marriage cannot be cleaned up?
Clean up the messes in your marriage by cleaning up unthankfulness and replacing it with praise given to God and your husband. You will be surprised at the miracle that can happen in a man who is despondent to you!
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!
You would not believe how wonderful it is to see God turn around an impossible situation into one that glorifies His name.
I know not every marriage can be salvaged (because it takes two) but if you are hurting, turn your marriage upsidedown by choosing an attitude of gratitude and turn your relationship totally around!
Has your marriage been hurting? If you will choose gratitude, share your commitment in the comments and I will pray for you to have God’s empowering strength!