Mom, are you discouraged? Are you looking for inspiration and encouragement? What if you could find what you so desperately need from Proverbs 31 to carry out everyday life with your kids?
Are you caught in a never-ending cycle of actions and reactions that won’t let you go?
Raising my kids was the hardest season I have ever faced in my life.
Before I had kids, I was terrified of having them for fear that they would not want to follow Jesus. I didn’t want them to get tired of the story of Jesus and reject it.
Life is short and like a vapor and I wanted them to wholeheartedly follow Christ.
I knew they would struggle with becoming Christ-followers the same as I did. When you grow up in a Christian family and go to church all your life, you turn off the story you’ve heard so often.
So I decided that I’d downplay teaching them about Jesus.
Then I had kids!
Life was NOT picture perfect!
And my life changed forever!
By the time my oldest was 4 months old, I was reading him these Bible stories and the rest is HisStory!
Obviously, becoming a mom changed my life and I HAD to tell them the story of Jesus!
Babies are cute and toddlers are too . . . although their sin-nature starts to show.
Life can be filled with chaos as well as the memorable and special moments with growing children.
I’m not perfect. I make mistakes. I mess up.
But God’s grace is bigger than my sins!
Often, life can become a cycle of actions and reactions between kids and you as their mom. It can be tough raising kids!
For me, it was a time when I saw my glaring need for Jesus like never before.
You might sometimes (or more often) be a discouraged mom and need the inspiration and encouragement that gives you strength for everyday life.
Proverbs 31 has 5 ways that will strengthen you and turn you from a discouraged mom to a mighty-warrior of strength and dignity.
5 Ways To Stop Being A Discouraged Mom
The best way to stop being a discouraged mom is to start putting some new habits into practice.
When you are discouraged about how things are going with your kids, you become weak emotionally and it possibly will start affecting you in other ways like your health.
A strong woman puts God’s wisdom into practice and blesses those around her. That would include your husband and children in the actions of your thoughts and attitudes. Thoughts and attitudes have a profound effect on your daily actions towards those you love.
That’s why these five characteristics are so important as ways to inspire you to stop being a discouraged mom.
These five things will develop the character and wisdom you need in living for Christ in your home. There is always room for us to improve no matter how far a stretch each of these will be.
It takes years to become what some call a Proverbs 31 Woman. It is worth it, so let’s do this journey together.
1. Being A Trustworthy Mom
The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. Proverbs 31:11
The first way to de-bug your discouragement is to concentrate on becoming a wonderful wife for your husband.
Miraculous things happen when you become a mom. Overnight you’ll become a woman who’d give her life for her kids!
I know for me, I wanted my kids to be safe and not get hurt but beyond that, my desire for them was eternal.
Yes, I wanted them to be successful adults but there is something temporal about success and something eternal about following Christ
BUT . . . whether our kids follow Christ or not, after the short eighteen to twenty years you spend raising them, you’ll suddenly be an empty nester with your hubby!
During the child-rearing years, it is pure wisdom to culture your relationship with your husband so you have a sweet marriage once they leave your home.
That’s where being trustworthy comes in!
Transparency in your marriage will save so much heartache in the end.
If you would have a hard time sharing something with your husband, then maybe it’s not something you should do.
Being trustworthy is being an excellent wife.
Trustworthiness uncommon but will strengthen your marriage relationship.
Character isn’t something you’re born with, it’s something you learn to do.
For a husband to have an excellent and trustworthy wife is far about rubies! (Proverbs 31:10-11)
So, how can you be a trustworthy wife?
She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:12
The biggest area for being trustworthy is being honest. Not lying about what you did or where you’ve been. Not even a white lie!
Lying is an area where trustworthiness can be compromised.
If your husband is at work all day, it is easy to overspend and put your stash away without him realizing it.
If you take care of the finances or a household portion of the finances, it’s not that you should never buy anything for yourself, but keep the overall budget in mind.
I want my husband to trust me completely; in the grocery expenses, and spending I do for our family.
I have struggled too in learning to be fully trustworthy. I’m not perfect and have my share of fails.
What challenges do you face in being trustworthy?
2. Being A Diligent Mom
She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands. She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. Proverbs 31:13-14
It’s easy to get caught into thinking you have to do all the things in order to be a diligent Proverbs 31-mom.
- All the things for your kids!
When my kids were little, I was keeping food on the table, their clothes clean and mended, as well as homeschooling, gardening, and canning. I finally came to the conclusion that I didn’t have to do EVERYTHING to be a good mom!
Proverbs 31 gives a general idea of what an excellent wife and mother can do. HOWEVER, it isn’t a list of things you MUST do!
So, if you are doing too much, STOP and REEVALUATE what is most important and stick to that.
Being diligent in our culture doesn’t mean that you are constantly on your phone, scrolling through your feed, and connecting with friends online. It is really such a temptation now.
Children NEED you to be present IN the moment. You can’t do that with your phone always in your hand.
Being diligent means that you get up and do some of these things. Maybe your ‘things’ look a little different but this will get your wheels turning.
- Spend time with Jesus each day!
- Make your bed! It makes everything look better!
- Eat breakfast WITH your kids! Don’t leave them to fend for themselves as this provides a special time of bonding with them!
- Quick-Clean and straighten up the house after breakfast! Do this after they go to school or if you homeschool – before starting.
- Have a meal plan! That way supper isn’t a surprise that rolls around at five!
- Read a Bible storybook or the Bible to them each day! Teach them children’s songs about Jesus and sing with them.
These are just some suggestions to get you started in setting up a routine for being a diligent mom and wife.
Get the hardest things done first in your day while your energy is at it’s best.
What have you found that helps you in being a diligent mom? Is your energy best in the morning or later in the day?
3. Being A Prudent Mom
She is like the ships of the merchant; she brings her food from afar. Proverbs 31:14
This has always made me think about food shopping.
It used to be that in order to buy beef or chicken, I had to drive more than an hour. Of course, it was in opposite directions.
Now, we are blessed to find hormone-free meat right in Walmart. The same goes for so many of the non-gluten flours and other health-related food that are now easily available.
I literally used to get these items from afar. Thankfully, many healthier choices can be found right at the grocery store or on Amazon!
BUT . . . are you being prudent in your food and clothing choices?
Prudent means that you are not overspending, yet finding healthy alternatives.
4. Being A Generous Mom
She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. Proverbs 31:15
I have always gotten up early. I find this verse encouraging because I am doing one thing right!
Do you (or did you) nurse your babies in the middle of the night?
Did you stay up late or into the early early morning to take care of things that were necessary for your kids that you couldn’t get done in the day?
This verse is such a source of encouragement because I don’t know a mom who doesn’t get up in the middle of the night. If you were up half the night, you might have slept later than you’d like.
BUT you ARE doing a great job and not a bad mom for sleeping longer because you had to be up during the night with a fussy child.
One way of being a generous mom is in all the things you do late into the evening, through the night or early morning for your family.
Your kids will be grown all too fast and so treasure each moment.
She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy. Proverbs 31:20
Do you ever make a meal for another mom who just had a baby or is having a difficult time?
A huge way of getting over being discouraged is by encouraging another mom!
What is your biggest challenge in being a generous mom?
If you are a discouraged mom, focusing on even ONE AREA that was shared here will get you going in the right direction. When you are busy doing the right thing for God’s glory, you will have less time for your thoughts to wander to a discouraging mindset or circumstances that you are facing.
Below is a children’s storybook with many Bible stories that I read to my children. They will grab the attention of a young child who is not ready to read the Bible. If your kids are not watching lots of animated videos or movies, if they are not playing games on a phone, their attention span for books will greatly improve.
This was packed with value and advice that I learned the hard way. I didn’t do everything right in raising my kids, what I did learn is how far I have fallen and how much I need my Savior to give me strength for each moment of breath I take.
What spoke to you most through what I shared?
The Trust-Filled Printable Pack is a set of 7 beautiful digital printables for your quiet time.
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